As a human race, we might have spent too much time evaluating. Evaluation promotes conclusions derived from judgements and comparison. Focusing much in the mind. There seems to be an addiction on solving problem after problem, and deciding what, where, who is better. Stuck in a cycle of striving, feeling overwhelmed, and anxious in chasing the next outcome.
How do we come unstuck?
Learning to shift out of the space of evaluation to drop into the space of curious observation and gentle allowing. Out of this space, compassion can be birthed.
Compassion is not an object of the mind, you don’t think it. It is a physical sensation and a connection to the heart. A bodily shift towards ease and lightening. A catalyst for deep change.
Hence the first thing to do is –
Learn to recognise Thoughts of Comparison that comes to your mind. And when you do, instead of going –
‘I am such a lousy person.‘ or ‘I shouldn’t be thinking this way.’
Try this:
Curiously observe and gently allow them. Yes, even the thoughts of comparison.
‘Oh, a thought on comparison has come up.’
You can even give it a name. Call it Parry or Sonny.
‘Hey Parry, I understand the nature of habits. You are welcome to visit as many times as you like.’
This lightening and ease helps create space for new thoughts and new habits.
‘I don’t have to react to you. I can sit with you.’
The mind habit then has space to loosen its hold on you.
You grip, it grips tighter.
You loosen, it loosens.
Reflect and Comment below: As a child or even in adulthood, do you find yourself comparing with others? Usually in what aspects? How does the thoughts and resulting emotions affect you in the moment?
